Are You 30 and Single Woman? You Have To Read This……
I decided to write this article because most single ladies in their 30s become so pressured to get married and they end up marrying the wrong one. I get loads of emails from single ladies asking for advice on how to continue. I am well educated, well-travelled and live in Europe, just to point out, this is common not only in Africa but in Asia, Europe, the Middle East, to list a few. In most homes and countries, being single at a certain age is a taboo.
It’s a struggle to socialize and there are pressures from almost everyone around you. Couples everywhere you go, friends and families wondering why you’re still single and trying to set you up with eligible bachelors they know. Sometimes you begin to think that being the second wife or side chick isn’t a bad idea. Life, in general, can and should be the best times, just live life and enjoy every bit of it.
The reason is by the time you reach your 30s, many of your friends will have paired off. Some will even have children. And while family life certainly has its merits, not everyone is ready for it at the same time—if ever. Whether you’re happy to stay single at 30 or are looking forward to eventually meeting your match, here’s what’s truly amazing about being independent during this time in your life.
My advice to the single ladies is to grow while they wait to get married. Don’t be in a rush and the right one will come. I always say: “rush in, rush out”.
See a few positive reasons of being 30 and single:
- Your Confidence Is at An All-Time High
“It’s common in your 20s to be a little unsure of yourself,”. According to a survey 45% of ladies that got married in their 20s are divorced, close to or they are in an abusive relationship but can’t come out. “But when you enter your 30s, you regain momentum in your ability to exude confidence about decision-making in your life.” The self-assured attitude applies to dating, but also other crucial areas like setting boundaries with friends and family, getting what you want at work and making lifestyle choices like where you want to live.
2. You Can Differentiate Between Sex and Love
This skill—often developed with age—saves you a lot of time and energy. “In our thirties, we are less impulsive and less driven by sex,” says a relationship coach, life coach, and founder of With Enthusiasm. That doesn’t mean you’re not interested in sex, but you now have the ability to appreciate a fun, no-strings-attached relationship in a way you maybe couldn’t in your 20s. You know what you want and go for it.
3. You Care Less About What Other People Think
Sure, it’s still annoying when your parents nag you about why you’re not married yet, but you’re less likely to take it to heart now. “Being single in your 30s is often seen as a consolation prize instead of the amazing experience that it can truly be,”. But those who experience it learn that it’s actually pretty fun—and that what other people think about your relationship status doesn’t matter. “Gone are the days when the judgements of your peers sway your days and pull you into a tailspin.”. Lol.. 😊
- You grow in your area of speciality and achieve a lot in different areas.
You now invest in yourself, grow in your career and become financially stable. The reason(s) why most women won’t leave their bad relationships is because they are not financially stable and 60% of ladies that got married in their 20s do not have qualifications and don’t know where to start.
5. You Date Smarter
You don’t have time for people you’re not all that into, and it’s better that way. “Since the time to begin raising a family is approaching for many, it’s less likely that you will waste your time on people who are just not right for you,”. The bottom line: Dating in your 30s is a smarter and less stressful practice.
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