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I am a happy woman: By Angel Ojukwu

I am a happy woman, I cannot imagine myself being a man, being a woman is a privilege I love my life as a woman. The emotions, the mood swings, the highest highs and the lowest lows. Colours, floral dresses, make-up, jewellery, soft voice! The joy of creating a home, nurturing a family. Sometimes when I cook for the family, I feel this immense joy from inside.

The happiest women I know realize that there are habits they’re in control of that lead to joy. Here are nine of them.

  1. Happy women make it a tradition to maintain routines.
    When you know what to expect from your day, simple things make it joyful. A friend showing up at the exercise class you always go to is happy. A stranger opening the door for you during your grocery run is, too. When you know your routine well, you know what to realistically expect from it, how to manoeuvre its challenges and how to find joy within what pops up in it.
  2. Happy women make it a habit to look for the goodness around them. When you train yourself to look for the good around you, you see it. You see someone smiling at you, starting a conversation with you, being a friend. When you make it a point, a habit, to notice goodness, it lifts you. It makes you happy, if you will.
  3. Happy women make it a habit to be open to newness.
    The world is so big and so wonderful and so rich of things to try and learn and do. When we say yes to simple things like new foods, important things like new friends and everything in between like new book genres, new tasks and new experiences, our endorphins increase and our happiness rises with them.
  4. Happy women make it a habit to lift others up.
    Help in lifting others is very important, this helps in making the world a better place. Telling someone else that you like their shirt, their hair looks great, they’re a great mom, they rocked a presentation or their work gave you chills, it feels good — happy — on both sides.
  5. Happy women make it a habit to take accountability for their experiences. When I link a bad eating day to my own poor planning, a negative interaction to my own grumpiness, a lack of productivity to my own procrastination, these don’t feel out of control or never-ending. If I own them, I can change them and/or my reaction to them, and I’m happier for it.
  6. Happy women make it a habit to remember that nothing lasts forever. This mantra makes the bad stuff feel bearable and the good stuff feel golden.
  7. Happy women make it a habit to not expect perfection.
    In the past I wanted everything perfect but then I realised I can’t achieve perfectness in everything. Not every moment or every day is happy. Everyone has terrible, horrible, no good, very bad days — like the beloved book and movie poster above say. When I do, I find it to be a relief to know that I can fall back on these habits (among others) and find happiness again (and again).
  8. Happy women make it a habit to surround themselves with other happy people. I love the quote, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Choose wisely.
  9. Happy women make it a habit to eat healthy. I eat healthy and I drink enough water to me going. Food is very important on one’s life.

Also read: I am happy being a woman.


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