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Dear Angel

How can I make the man I love settle down with me?

I am in my 30’s and I want to settle down. I yearn for the whole package – a house, marriage, children, +++… We’ve been a couple for three years but don’t live together.We’ve been together for 3yrs now.

We split every food and drink bill down the middle and do everything together. I sleep at his place on Wednesday, Friday and Saturday nights, but he never stays with me because my flatshare is too far from his work, plus he hates my flat.

In the early days, my friends accused him of taking me for granted and he has never spoken to them since. Over the past 6months I seriously thought he was going to propose to me.

He asked to meet me for a drink on a Tuesday (!) for a chat. Expecting a night of lust and passion, I treated myself to some gorgeous silk undies, but all he wanted to know was whether I could get my parents to invest in his mate’s start-up.

I said no so he stormed off in a huff. The next night (our usual Wednesday) he said he couldn’t meet me because he was ill and he’s been difficult and sulky ever since. Despite everything I think he could be a good husband and father. We know each other so well and getting a place wouldn’t be such a huge leap, but I think he is just using me.

ANGEL SAYS: I understand the dating scene doesn’t appeal to you, but can’t help thinking that your current man is taking a lot but giving very little back in return.

From avoiding your flat to flouncing off in a huff when you refused to tap up your folks for cash, is he so very different from the guys out there in the “Wild West”?

Admittedly, many people exist happily “loving together but living apart”, but if this set-up is not making you happy, you have some tough decisions to contemplate.

OMAMODA

The author OMAMODA

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